EVERY DAY BLUES

yes, everyday blues.. 

you might have heard Monday blues, the kind of feeling where you don't feel like getting up, getting ready and getting any work done. And sometimes you feel like it every day. Every SINGLE day. You don't feel like waking up, getting ready, you eat forcefully, and drag yourself to work. some may call you lazy, but there might be something you need to pay attention to.

Whenever we hear that someone just gave upon their life, we think, that if they could have just talked to someone, this wouldn't have happened. We just don't know what the person had gone through. On the other hand, we see news that some child committed suicide, because she was scolded by her mother, and a wife commits suicide due to a quarrel with her husband over a TV remote control. Such trivial issues! 

Why?

Some people have everything in their lives, like fame, money and every thing that could be bought with money. But still, they are not happy. People go through distress and depression for several reasons. Even for things like 'they are not just happy'. And in our society, we just brush off these issues. And try to avoid talking about these things. Because the society will call you crazy.

One can't talk about these issues with his family coz they will judge him/her. Not with colleagues, coz it will become an office gossip. And sometimes, people don't even have anyone with whom they can share something. Or worse, they can't share how they are feeling, because they don't even know what they are feeling. 

Let us try, You have everything a person can ever wish for, and you are unhappy. How can you explain it to someone. Like, "hey, I am not feeling happy". Why? "I don't know. I just don't feel happy".

You need to figure it out for yourself first. 

Sometimes, people have everything, but they don't have someone to genuinely share a smile with. Or they are surrounded by people who are just concerned about themselves. Or they are not giving sufficient time to themselves, or their work. Or they are unhappy, because they think they are.

 You have to figure it out first why you are unhappy.

Sometimes I over think and I become unhappy. And in order to come out of that feeling, I just recall what I was thinking about. Once I get to the thought for which I was worried, I just assess, whether worrying would help or solve it, then I would look for solutions for that problem. Once I get the solution or the plan of action for that problem, I just stop thinking about it, and get on with my life. It works for me. And when I can't get through any solution for that problem, I just pray. I am not a religious person, but I just vent out all that is in my heart. And when you pray, don't just chant, but talk. Speaking to someone who we think wont judge us, is helpful sometimes.

Sometimes I wonder, how our parents survived without all this. Maybe they had no time to deal with all this, because they were so busy. No maids, no Internet, and with half of the comforts we are enjoying now. They might have missed the time to care about how they were feeling. They prayed, they worked, talked and quarrelled. They just kept themselves busy. Even if they had complained about something bothering them, their parents would have convinced them into thinking that its all a phase. May be our parents would give us the same advise if we told them ours. 

We just need to learn find out what is actually bothering us, and consider solutions for it. And if we can't, at least talk to someone who can assure that it is going to be okay. 

But more than that we need to love ourselves, and know that no problem is bigger than life.

The Opportunists.

Hey,
Let me tell you a story.
The story of a stupid little girl.
The story of my friend...
(i wouldn't take her name, of course!!)

There was this.. Cute Young Stupid little girl,
She had a boy friend. whom, she adored very much.
At first she was very much excited about
how her new relationship was going to change her LIFE.
Inside out.......
The boy was of course, very clever,
whenever he needed anything, he would say- "Sweetheart, could you do this for me?"
and the stupid little girl out of new passionate love, would do it,
this continued for a while,
at first she used to help him, out of love,
then out of fear that he might get offended, if she doesn't,
then out of pressure that she can't get another guy,
then out of despair, that she might be left alone for her life..
but whenever she needed help,, she would get only one answer- "NO"

This story belongs to everyone..
this might have happened with a boy, who did everything for a girl, and was forced to do so..
this might just be your story,

Sometimes we just do something out of love for someone, and expect the same in return, but that does not happen.. at some point of time, it turns out to be so,
you find out, that you were being used..
the person, for whom you did everything, was just taking advantage.
the person may be your loved one,
your boss,
your relative,
your "So called" friend,
or it may also be "YOU"

and we call them  "THE OPPORTUNISTS"

who do you think is to blame in the above story?
The Boy? or the girl? for being stupid?
of course!! you can't blame someone for being nice, or for being in love, or for being KIND.
But there's breaking point,
where you have to choose between, getting used and getting away from it.

What to do in such situations?
when you know that the other person is taking advantage of you.
that you are being used.. you can't even know what intentions the person holds in his mind.!!

I always wondered, what if people were completely honest with each other !!
Like, someone would say. "hey, i'm being friends with you because you are popular , and i want you to do something for me"
or like " hey, i think you are beautiful, so i'm just hanging around with you, i don't care about "The so called wonderful personality or character whatever!! you call it, you are"
Gasp! but that's not possible and it's not good either..
Just like Nolan said " Absolute Honesty isn't always the most diplomatic nor the safest form of communication with emotional beings"

But there's a simple thing you could do..
you can learn to say "NO"
this might not win the situation, but it would show the other person
that-you could stand up for yourself.
that you could raise your voice against something...
that you are strong..

isn't that enough to scare the shit out of somebody.
So, next time someone uses you for their hidden goals.
be aware,, that you have two choices, either allow it to be so, or say "NO"

but remember, don't stop being kind..
because once a very kind lady said "if you do good, people will accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives, DO GOOD ANYWAY"

With love.

The "So Rude"- ME

The other day, i was in the canteen, waiting for my turn to order, and talking to someone i knew.

The canteen was packed with people, waiting for their turn.

I was so involved in talking to the person next to me that, unintentionally,

and without even intending to do so (Sorry! for using that phrase, Lawyer!! can't help it),

i just tapped on the feet of the chair next to me, with my shoe. 

I didn't notice, whether the person sitting on that chair noticed it or not !!

then i did it again, subconsciously..., The man (sitting on that chair) then looked at me with a bit of impatience. The person talking to me, then said that i was disturbing the man. then i immediately stopped it. Only to realize that i was  totally being rude with him...without even knowing it.

Before leaving, the man said to me that, i was disturbing him, while he was eating, and stared at me with a blank expression on his face. I couldn't do anything.. but to ignore him, as if it was not my fault. (Yes!! I Didn't Even Apologize, Shame on me...)

and then i spent the rest of the evening, thinking, how pathetic, i was...

to not have apologized at that moment.

I think, we all do this a lot..

We annoy people around us, without even knowing it,
and don't even apologize.

We, ALL... at some point of time, must have hurt, disturbed, irritated, or annoyed, someone in our lives. And we are all guilty of it.

It might be just a comment, it might just be a gesture, or a bad joke, yes, we all did it.

To us it was just something trivial. But to the other person,
it might not be so...

It might have ruined their day..

It might have made them feel awful.

It might have ripped them apart.

This is the reason, why i don't play jokes around most of the people, because, you just don't know, which joke offends whom!!! Especially around children. I hate it when adults poke fun at children, by name calling. this might be fun for the one laughing, But, to the child on the other end?

it might have made him shed a tear in the dark. And that.. is the worst possible thing one could do..

However, I don't know that man, and I haven't see that man anywhere else again,

( And hope not to)

But, as they say, the moment you accept it, that you are responsible for some wrong, and the moment you regret it, is the moment you are forgiven.

So, Here it goes.

I'm Sorry for being RUDE

With Love,

The Guy Next Door.

How do you even explain him...

He is Pure at heart, Soft spoken, Out of this world...
From some place other than earth..
Just so good to be true...

The way he smiles at someone, on being called "Nice",
The way he Blushes, on being called "Handsome"... its priceless..
Oh, You don't know!! you  just don't know, how wonderful he is..
Rihanna wrote "Shine bright like a Diamond" just for him..

He was a friend to few, and foe to many,
Of course, How can someone so nice, be Tolerated??
He made anyone around him, feel jealous, by just smiling.
Oh boy...And the time he waved  back at me..
I almost fainted...!!

He had the face of a "king", Brains of a "Philosopher",
and heart of an "Angel"
Someone who could turn heads back, by just walking in..
Yet he was so humble.. He would smile and say
"Really, I don't think so.. but thanks anyway"

You know its a privilege to be in the company of someone like him,
someone who could make you go weak in your knees..
Someone with such fabulous hair, like a "Leo",
Someone Who is so effortlessly cool..
someone with whom you can even share your food..

Someone who doesn't even  belong to this place...
but feels like "The guy next door"
Wherever you are...
You must be too good to be true....
Oh! You are a Dream come true....

With Love,

Be like Bilbo.

If you want to live your life to the fullest, then be like Bilbo Baggins... yes,be like Bilbo, joyful, Courageous, ready for adventure, Bold and wonderful.. like Bilbo...

Believe... that there are people in your life, who you don't even know exist. who believe in you, when you don't even believe in yourself. Like GANDALF, they push you to do greater things. Things which would make you grow as a person. Things which make you go crazy. Things which make your life more adventurous. Sometimes, things which even make you a burglar.

There may be some people who don't  understand your worth at first... like THORIN, they may doubt your strength, insult you, put you down. But be yourself, and they will love you. you may even end up gaining an everlasting friendship. Preserve it. Stand up for those friends, even if it means standing up against them, Sometimes.

Be tactful, there are people around you, who act like they are helping you, they are not. they are just trying to get their things done. Like GOLLUM, they have secret purposes. All they want is their "PRECIOUS". Once they get what they want, they are going to eat you. (THEY EATS IT WHOLE). Be aware, that you are important to them as long as you are helping. The Moment they realize that you are not going to.. You are DEAD!! (For them)

If  you have secrets, keep them safe, you wouldn't want to regret, by opening up to some people. Remember, everybody is not your friend. And they are not always interested in your life. Sometimes they are just in search of a story to entertain themselves.

You are going to face challenges in your life. Some of which may even come in the size of a DRAGON. You will realize that running away from them is not going to help you much. You have to be either invisible or invincible to face them. They can only be conquered by those who make their Opportunity their Arrow, Their Love their Bow, and their Hope their strength. Sometimes facing challenges may be as difficult as “trying to reason with a dwarf”, but to avoid a war it may be necessary. So, the next time you face a challenge, say:
"I'll be alright. Just let me sit quietly for a moment."

Sometimes you would have to leave your comfort zone, Your lovely home, Your warm armchair, But that would only mean exploring the wide world, Ain't it!! And have you ever heard of a person who lost anything by travelling the world. NO!! Even Phileas Fogg won the bet. So, travel as much as you could. And make new friends. But remember that making friendship means sacrificing, and balancing, sometimes it could be as painful as sharing your FOOD (even when you don't want to)

And speaking of Bilbo, have you ever looked at his feet, they are huge, they are enormous, and it always reminds me that:
 “AT THE END OF THE DAY, YOUR FEET SHOULD BE DIRTY, YOUR HAIR MESSY, AND YOUR EYES SPARKLING.”

You would live your life to the fullest, when you don't say NO, to an adventure. And you may even get to write a book or two. and remember,

“The world is not in your books and maps. It’s out there.” Go live it.

With love,

Let It Go.

Its almost evening, and its dark, cloudy, and cold,  and how else it could be!!

i was feeling so.. and the nature did too. i saw the tree in front of our house, it was almost dead, but no, it wasn't actually. the last time i saw it so broke, was during "The Cyclone".  Leaves fallen, pests eating the trunk and branches, half dead. Just like me, Hopeless, and cold. its getting everything it needs, water, sunlight, and soil, but still its under nourished. I felt that sometimes we need to go through this, once in a while, you need to feel totally direction less. only to find yourself.

There comes a time, when  you wake up and, you don't want to do anything anymore, and you just don't want to get out of that bed. you feel like you've been hit on your head. you feel like you hate everything and everyone. It may be a Bad day, Bad week, Bad month or a life, may be. May be its the dream job that you are unable to get, may be its the Guy who you have been giving priority in your life, who treats you like shit!! may be its you, or may be its just nothing.  Whatever reason you may be giving, it.

Don't let this feeling drive out the Happiness inside you. Don't let it make you believe that you have a bad life. Just don't let it!!

Remember that whatever it may be, it will pass. you only need to learn to MOVE ON...
If you don't like something, say it. if you don't want do that job, leave it. if its just a guy, who doesn't care about you, run away from him. yes!! and don't look back. If your boss wants you to do a task which makes you sick, say "NO". But, take responsibility for whatever you do. Learn to take the blame, instead of pushing it on to someone. Don't blame your parents, society or more importantly GOD! Just don't..

This!! whatever you are going through right now, is just the preparation for your future self to grow, and nurture, to gain strength, to stand out of a crowd. So, Don't be afraid. If you are going through something very bad, or feeling lonely. Then understand that there are people like you, who are exactly feeling the same right now. There are people around you, who love you. Sometimes the clouds that have dimmed your light, may not be letting you see them. but don't worry. you'll be able to let them into your life. Or even better embrace this loneliness. You might just be able to find your true self.

So, Whatever you are feeling right now, just let go. Let it go..  and "SMILE" may be for a minute, or a second, and be happy....


With Love.