yes, everyday blues..
you might have heard Monday blues, the kind of
feeling where you don't feel like getting up, getting ready and getting
any work done. And sometimes you feel like it every day. Every SINGLE
day. You don't feel like waking up, getting ready, you eat
forcefully, and drag yourself to work. some may call you lazy, but
there might be something you need to pay attention to.
Whenever we hear that someone just gave upon their life, we think, that if they could have just talked to
someone, this wouldn't have happened. We just don't know what the
person had gone through. On the other hand, we see news that some child committed
suicide, because she was scolded by her mother, and a wife commits
suicide due to a quarrel with her husband over a TV remote control.
Such trivial issues!
Why?
Some people have everything in their lives, like fame, money and
every thing that could be bought with money. But still, they are not
happy. People go through distress and depression for several reasons.
Even for things like 'they are not just happy'. And in our
society, we just brush off these issues. And try to avoid talking
about these things. Because the society will call you crazy.
One can't talk about these issues with his family coz they will judge
him/her. Not with colleagues, coz it will become an office gossip.
And sometimes, people don't even have anyone with whom they can share
something. Or worse, they can't share how they are feeling, because
they don't even know what they are feeling.
Let us try, You have everything a person can ever wish for, and you
are unhappy. How can you explain it to someone. Like, "hey, I am not
feeling happy". Why? "I don't know. I just don't feel happy".
You need
to figure it out for yourself first.
Sometimes, people have everything, but they don't have someone to
genuinely share a smile with. Or they are surrounded by people
who are just concerned about themselves. Or they are not giving
sufficient time to themselves, or their work. Or they are unhappy,
because they think they are.
You have to figure it out first why you are
unhappy.
Sometimes I over think and I become unhappy. And in order to come
out of that feeling, I just recall what I was thinking about. Once
I get to the thought for which I was worried, I just assess, whether
worrying would help or solve it, then I would look for solutions for
that problem. Once I get the solution or the plan of action for that
problem, I just stop thinking about it, and get on with my life. It
works for me. And when I can't get through any solution for that
problem, I just pray. I am not a religious person, but I just vent
out all that is in my heart. And when you pray, don't just chant, but
talk. Speaking to someone who we think wont judge us, is helpful
sometimes.
Sometimes I wonder, how our parents survived without all this. Maybe
they had no time to deal with all this, because they were so busy. No
maids, no Internet, and with half of the comforts we are enjoying now.
They might have missed the time to care about how they were feeling.
They prayed, they worked, talked and quarrelled. They just kept
themselves busy. Even if they had complained about something
bothering them, their parents would have convinced them into thinking that
its all a phase. May be our parents would give us the same advise if
we told them ours.
We just need to learn find out what
is actually bothering us, and consider solutions for it. And if we
can't, at least talk to someone who can assure that it is going to be okay.
But more than that we need to love ourselves, and know that
no problem is bigger than life.
